Grief writing - Entry 18
Feel the pain, but allow good days too without guilt.
Have the good day, then allow yourself to feel like you got hit by a truck the next day.
Drink enough water and eat the salad instead of ice cream, but have the piece of chocolate too.
Get outside and breathe the fresh air, allowing for subsequent hours of sleeping comfortably in bed.
Take the phone call, but if it hurts, get off quickly.
On important dates, feel however you feel. Do what feels right to you.
Change tradition, because life is changed now.
Make new traditions, ones that may only make sense to you.
Nothing has to be the same as before, because you will never be the same as before.
Open doors to allow people out, but crack the window for new peers in grief. For they may be the breath of fresh air you need.
Find solace in someone who understands even when it seems depressing to the outside world.
Be in nature and feel its expanse. Allow the tears there, mother earth soaks up the pain so well.
Feel there and keep walking. In the trees or by the water. She understands just as we do.
Know you're not alone even when no one is around.
Death feels segregating. But we are segregated together.
Hearts hurting together but separately.